a peaceful walk in the woods really relaxes me. the fact that I’m dragging a body should be irrelevant.
(2/2) I know they may not have done it out of the same male entitlement and sadism that most boys did, but it still affected me in the same way. I saw this happening with other girls too so I think it is an issue. So I guess what I want to ask is, what are the feminist/anti-ableist takes on this? Sorry if any of this is out of line.
I’ve never experienced it myself, but I’ve worked with people with disabilities for a long time before I got my degree (and the degree means I work with something else now, but have a greater knowledge in how the human brain functions now).
I think that… why wouldn’t they have the same sense of male entitlement as all other boys do? They’ve been raised with it just the same. I don’t think that we should make that difference; of course if you don’t understand what you are doing, it’s easier to step over the line, but if someone explains to you why you shouldn’t do it and why it’s wrong, well… then you might be able to understand why you shouldn’t do it. I think the adults in this school have a much greater responsibility than they’re taking. I know that at my old jobs, sexuality was very much taboo and the staff never talked to our clients about that (like, safe sex, consent etc.) because they pretty much kept that sort of thing quiet as the staff did not want to discuss sex and/or consent with the clients (which is SO IMPORTANT to do). So honestly, I think the problem is that we see people with disabilities as either sexless or sex-crazed and unable to understand consent, which simply is not the case, and that the teachers/adults who work with people - disabled or not - who violate consent need, should, and have to take responsibility for talking about sexuality and consent with the individuals they are responsible for; and this goes for every adult working in these environments, not just “special ed” but people in general. The problem is that most adults don’t know shit all about sexuality and consent either, so they’re - at least in my experience - brushing it off with the “boys will be boys” shit or even worse, the “he’s intellectually disabled and therefore is not able whatsoever to control his sexuality or his sexual actions” bullshit. That’s not the case. These boys might have intellectual disabilities, but that doesn’t mean they’re a pack of wild animals! I mean, you don’t see the girls in special ed do it, do you? Exactly.